Equally yoked dating
Can a relationship work if the two of you are on different spiritual levels?It's not clear from your letter what makes the two of you "unequally" yoked other than the fact that your boyfriend is not the avid churchgoer that you are.
For instance, is he at heart an atheist, someone who simply doesn't believe in God and has no interest in talk about spirituality and Christian values?
It takes lots of work but it's possible for two people on different spiritual planes to build a good marriage.
After all, just because you start out on different planes doesn't meant you will stay on different planes.
If he is, then I agree with your pastor that continuing this relationship is only going to cause you both lots of pain and disappointment down the road.
But let's say that your boyfriend is not an atheist.